Grief & Eros – Flow & Feeling

Date(s) - 1st November
7:00 pm - 8:30 pm


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Grief. It’s not only bereavement

There are many forms of loss that we experience in life from work and relationships to hopes and dreams. There are many kinds of grief to be expressed from fear and sadness at the extinction of the planet to existential angst at the troubles of the world.
Where is the space to mourn what has been lost? To put our sorrows in their rightful place?
“It is our unexpressed sorrows, the congested stories of loss, that, when left unattended, block our access to the soul.” – Francis Weller
In our pain-avoidant Western culture, there is a fear of difficult feelings. A worry that if we opened ourselves up to feel all the things, there would be no end to it. There’s so much going on, and so little time to process it, that life experience can be difficult to digest. So we shut down, numb out, and stuff it all away.
Even in spiritual circles there can be an over-emphasis on being positive, in other words bypassing the pain of existence. Whilst an orientation towards gratitude and appreciation of life is essential in order to thrive, this naturally emerges from the fertile soil of right-fully expressed feeling.
There is an intimate connection between Grief and Eros. When we close down from difficult feelings, we also block off the energy of life moving through. Placing a dam around the heart, body and soul. The capacity to open to love, pleasure and joy is only as vast as the capacity to meet the pain, anger and sadness of existence.
When we open ourselves to feeling what is just beneath the surface, we create space in our being. Think on a time when you were feeling sad and low, or stuck and confused. Then you had a good cry and it released the pent up feeling to a fresh energy of aliveness. Like a bright clear day after a heavy storm.
Grieving is often considered a private affair in our culture. Yet without the support of community to hold us or sacred rituals to guide us, we are in danger of being swept away as grief washes over us like a river. When community and ritual come together, we find ways to “hold the banks” of the river and express our feelings in more healthy and enlivening ways.
“A beautifully facilitated exploration of some of the most fundamental, but also the most taboo, feelings and experiences we go through in life. I found community, new practices, support, and deep presence with others and with myself. Finishing the course, I feel nourished, held, and more hopeful.”
“Really valuable in helping me to process feelings that we rarely have the space to talk about. The varied exercises helped me to move stuck emotions through my body and feel a bit more at peace about facing the enormity of grief.”
“A unique, valuable and nourishing experience exploring grief in many forms from different angles.”
  • Have been touched by these times – on a personal or transpersonal level
  • Want to express your feelings more – and perhaps don’t know how
  • Find that you are feeling stuck and unable to move forward in life
  • Feel that your erotic energy – either too much or too little – is affected by these times
  • Intuitively sense that Grief wants to be expressed through you
  • Long to know a deeper connection in community
  • Feel curious about the connection between expressing emotion and Eros
NOTE: It is important that you are sufficiently supported and resourced to engage in this deep process, particularly as we are meeting virtually. If you are experiencing depression and/or suicidal thoughts, we recommend that you seek support in whichever way aligns for you (this may be contacting your doctor, calling the Samaritans, engaging in private therapy, or something else).
Whilst the practice of grief tending is a panacea to many of the pains of our times, it is important to be in humility and integrity with the scope and capacity of a six-week online offering.
Acknowledging those who have walked the path ahead of us. With gratitude to…
“Apprenticing to Grief” training with Grief Tending
The work of Francis Weller
  • Sharing circles
  • Meditation
  • Journaling
  • Embodied practices
  • Song/chant
Everything is an invitation and you are welcome to engage at the level that feels right for you.
  • 7pm Mondays from 1st November
  • 6 x 90min online sessions via Zoom
  • Closed group of 12 participants
  • Joining means committing to the journey. To preserve the privacy of participants, calls will not be recorded
  • Signal message group for support during the journey and for two weeks afterwards
This offering is made in the spirit of a gift economy rather than transaction.
There is a baseline donation of £88 for the 6 sessions, which covers the basic set-up time and costs. You are welcome to increase your gift at the time of booking, or at the end of the programme. You are encouraged to give at the level of value received, in line with what is do-able for your financial circumstances.
Click HERE to join