Cultivating safety in sexuality workshops

Since the tsunami of #metoo hit our cultural and social consciousness, we have seen wave after wave of statements of abuse by people in power. No area of life has been untouched by these outings– from government to charities, church to corporations. In the spiritual community every field from yoga to meditation has been shaken and stirred. In this sense the Tantra world is no different from any other sphere of life. However, what makes it particularly chilling is that many people entered the field of sacred sexuality seeking healing, and instead found themselves being further traumatised by what they encountered.

In Tantric work it is not uncommon for difficult emotions and suppressed memories to surface. Sometimes people experience catharsis and tears as old patterns and stories fall away. In the moment this is held with presence and compassion, and supported in moving through the body. What is essential is that the person is able to process their experience as fully as they can in that moment. It is only in a space of safety and security that we can really allow ourselves to open into the fullness of experiences. Softness and sensitivity are our guides.

What is problematic is when people have been pushed beyond what they are able to process – all in the name of breaking through sexual shame, cultural taboos, or “smashing the Ego”. Rather than being supported to explore and honour their boundaries and needs, folks have been pressurised to break through their “resistance” to the detriment of their physical and mental wellbeing.

What is shown time and time again through these revelations is how challenging it is for many people – in particular women – to feel empowered to honour the wisdom and knowing of their own being. We have been brought up with the message that we must entrust power over to authority figures whether teachers or doctors. We have been conditioned to disconnect from our bodies and override the subtle cues that something is not right for us. We have been taught to ignore our intuition and suppress our emotions. And we are so longing for connection and community that we give up our individual needs in order to fit in and belong.

So, how do we reclaim our sovereignty whilst surrendering into our spirituality? How can you stay safe when igniting such potentially explosive material as sexuality? What could be the ways forward for us all?

There are three principles which can support you on your journey…


Tantra is founded on the twin principles of Energy (Shakti) and Awareness (Shiva). Much neo-Tantric teaching has focused on the cultivation of high energetic states, orgasm and ecstasy. However, this is only one dimension. We also need to cultivate the quality of awareness; witnessing ourselves in the experience.

Awareness is not the small self that shows up as self-consciousness; not able to fully engage for fear of “what other will people think”. Rather this is the big “Self” of consciousness that it always present within us. Awareness keeps us anchored in the present moment, able to notice and witness our experience as the “one who is experiencing” rather than floating off into realms of fantasy or disassociation, which are mechanisms of escape from reality.


Sensitivity begins with your capacity to feel yourself first, before even starting to think about feeling another. How open are you to the environment around you? How keenly do you experience each moment of aliveness? Many people have had sensitivity drummed out of them from an early age. Or life feels so overwhelming that we numb ourselves out in order to survive.

In life there is a flow between giving and receiving, activity and receptivity. However, many people get stuck in one mode – usually the one associated with outward action and doing. When we are constantly pushing or reaching out into the world, the quality of sensitivity in noticing what is coming back towards us is diminished. We are reaching out for an experience but not attuned to what is actually coming back our way.

Sensitivity begins with feeling life moving through us as it is – without agenda or expectation. Once we have experienced this force of life, we realise that it is a part of us. We do not need to reach out to another to provide it to us. We are in a place where we can share what is moving through as an overflowing of our being. We touch the other as if touching ourselves and are responsive to the feedback that flows between us in the aliveness of the moment.

Slowing Down

Our world is increasingly fast-paced and performance driven. We want it all and we want it now. We have lost a sense of appreciation for the time it takes to truly learn and master a new skill. We are a culture of over-stimulated intensity junkies focused on quick wins and fast results.

Tantra is not a journey than can be fast-tracked; it requires continuous and consistent commitment to your practise and personal growth. Whilst powerful breakthroughs and exciting energetic shifts can be experienced in the moment, it is only by giving space for integration and honouring the movement of the experience beyond the workshop and into our lives that we can truly move glimpse the potential of the Tantric path.

Awareness, sensitivity and slowing down are all skills that can be cultivated. They require time and space to open into more subtle experience. Are you ready to awaken to a new way of being?

Togetherness – 18th & 19th November 2017

This dynamic festival explores human connection, intimacy and sexuality in all their forms.

It’s about…

  • Improving the quality of contact with everyone in your life
  • Meeting new people from different backgrounds
  • Enriching all your relationships

Gayatri is offering her ever-popular ‘Massage a Trois’ workshop there.

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Together // Forever – 27th to 29th October 2017

It’s time to come Together one last time! For the last four years we’ve gathered annually for this intimate, sex-positive celebration of All That You Are. As Sacred Pleasures goes into its next evolution, Newman and Gayatri invite you to join us for a final exhilarating three-day edition of our signature event: Together // Forever.

This is the place where you can welcome yourself in all your shades and colours: your courage and your vulnerability, your depth and your silliness, your tender and your tough, your kinky and your vanilla. Over the course of two structured days (Friday & Saturday) we support you to shed what isn’t serving you and open up to love and intimacy. Then on Sunday you get a full day to explore and play together, expressing your desires freely in the knowledge that everyone can take care of their boundaries.

It was liking lifting the veil on how a group could drop into love in one weekend

Together // Forever is a Level 2 (Intermediate) event and is aimed at those with some experience working with conscious sexuality, BDSM or personal growth. You’ve probably attended workshops with Sacred Pleasures or elsewhere, or explored your sexuality in another way.

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Tantra Festival London – 14th & 15th October 2017

Gayatri is delighted to be part of the 2017 London tantrafestival

‘Heaven on Earth – Dare to live in Ecstasy’
taking place in Shoreditch, Central London on the 14th & 15th October 2017

tantrafestival is a celebration of Tantra in its many facets. For one weekend, the best practitioners and teachers in the field of Tantra from the UK and Europe come together to create a dynamic and exciting programme of lectures, workshops and presentations on a broad number of Tantra topics. Among all these inspiring activities, the festival also includes artistic performances, stimulating Conscious Talks™, fun games and opportunities to connect with like-hearted people.

Join Gayatri on Sunday afternoon for her workshop “This Body, My Prayer” on the sacred nature of the body.

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The Summer House

If you haven’t heard of it as yet, The Summer House is a wonderfully playful, creative sex-positive retreat for exploring intimacy, connection and self-expression. It offers a chance to escape from city life and soak up the views, gardens and atmosphere of a luxurious country home. All with an exuberant team who co-create radically different way of engaging with others. Prepare for the time of your life!  I’m delighted to be invited back to Summer House to facilitate for the third year running. The workshops are rooted in my take on sacred sexuality. Discover more at

At the Threshold – with Sacred Pleasures

Step into this pressure-cooker for personal transformation – an epic 24 hour adventure. In collaboration with my good friend London Faerie of Sacred Pleasures, we’re concocting a magical blend of social experiment, interactive performance, sexy celebration and mystery. Journey with us through the day, deep into the night (don’t expect much sleep!) and out through the other side.

Our shared belief is that living in tune with spirit is a practice of surrendering to the unknown. When you enter At The Threshold, you live this fully for twenty-four hours… allowing yourself to really be in the unknown and maybe even learn to enjoy it! Let’s shake things up as we dance into the mystery. Discover more at

T O G E T H E R N E S S: An intimate festival of human connection

For 2 days in London in May in London we are taking over the top of a skyscraper and filling it with some of the best teachers in the world so you can learn how to

 • enrich your relationships

• expand your sexuality

• explore new ways of connecting with others

• improve the quality of contact you have with everyone in your life

Sessions include

 Expanding Your Sexuality • Art of Sensual Touch • Deep Listening • Boundaries & Empowerment • Mindfulness & Sexuality • Liberating Gender • The Soulmate Delusion • Sensory Experience • Art of Being with Alan Lowen • How to be a Lazy Guru • Body Positive Photo Studio • Singing & Intimacy • Digital Dating Detox • Love Lounge 101 • Sensuality & Ritual • Orgasmic Cacao Breathing • Shhh Dating • Procabulary • Deepening Sensuality for Partners • Playfulness & Connection • Holding for Healing • Saturday Night Cacao Dance Party

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Art of Being Festival (Czech Republic)


5 days opening and awakening to the mystical magic of becoming present in our whole being. Set in stunning countryside in the Czech Republic.

“We dive deep, we fly high, we share intimately and celebrate passionately, guided by Alan’s carefully chosen team of teacher-guides and musicians–men and women who love to pour out their life-transforming gifts with real presence, to enthrall and thrill us with music that may carry us into mystic space or dance us off our feet, who love the inspiration of working together, and love above all the rising festival wave that uplifts and transports us all into the realm of MIRACLE AND MYSTERY.” Alan Lowen, The Patron, Founder and Spiritual Father of the Art of Being Festival

Gayatri is honoured to return for the second year as a teacher and guide. We hope you will join us!

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Osho Leela Winter Conscious Sexuality Festival

Join Gayatri and a host of other teachers from 1st to 5th February, as the  Winter Conscious Sexuality festival returns for its third year.

At Osho Leela they create and hold a grounded, safe and non-judgmental space for you to dip into the heart of conscious sexuality. This festival is a great opportunity for you to develop more awareness of who you are as a sensual and sexual being. There will be a choice of daily sessions and meditations, plus morning Yoga, one-to-one sessions, the Love Lounge, yurt sauna and more goodies. Give yourself four days of Heaven on Earth!

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Desire & Intimacy: Conscious Sexuality Festival for the Under 40’s

Osho Leela are excited to present this event for under 40’s – and we are delighted to be offering some yummy workshops there!

Osho Leela has been running Conscious Sexuality Festivals for 9 years and is well known for its professional and playful approach. It is the first time they offer the festival to a designated age group, and we expect it to be a very juicy affair.

Aimed at a younger generation, hungry for authentic teachings regarding Desire and Intimacy, and looking for a safe space to express their true sexuality, this 5 day event has a full and varied programme with a great line up of teachers all passionate in their field.

This festival is for you if:

  • You’re ready to open up and discover your potential as a fully alive sexual being
  • Feel you never got taught anything meaningful about Desire and Intimacy from parents, school or the media
  • You’re tired of ‘groping in the dark’, trying to make sense of this whole ‘sex and love’ thing
  • You’re ready to play, take a risk and have FUN!

Come alone, come with a friend, come single or in a relationship. All are welcome. To book, go to –